What are you to me? When I think of you, it makes me happy, because you are such a kind person. You always try to help people out even if it might be inconvenient for you. You have a really good heart (I don't care if that sounds cliche), and stupidly enough, I have learned that having that quality will often lead to people being mean to you. I hate that, but I guess it's just the way it is at this age. The mean people like that feel better about themselves if they have some way to feel power over another, so they end up taking advantage of the nice and quiet ones, because they (the nice ones) don't have the meanness in them to stand up to being made fun of. I would say you should try to ignore them... but I know how it is. Everyone says to do that, but it's not that easy. So... if you can do that, try your best. But more importantly, keep in mind that there really are people that care about your existance. I do. I know it might be hard to believe sometimes, especially when there are so many people attacking your feelings in large groups, but try to see through it. I know it hurts, but... they are only doing it for stupid reasons to improve their own feelings about themselves. It's not really anything they truly hate about you. Also... if you're quiet, they obviously don't know you very well, right? Then they have no basis to form their twisted opinions on. That's another good reason to not believe whatever they might say against you. ^^
(Oops, I haven't been making paragraphs x.x) And... about the online/offline different personality thing. I know how that is, too. But... the truth is, even though you act differently, you're still you. Your beliefs and feelings don't change. Sure, you may be more outgoing or energetic online, but... what I have realized over my time here is that online personalities are even closer to the 'real' you than you might think. You probably act shy IRL because of various reasons... you might be too nervous to talk to people, or you don't know what to say, or you're afraid of what they'll think of you, or other reasons. Mostly subconscious. But online, your words more closely match your thoughts. For example, right now... I'm taking the time to think out what I'm saying nd write it here, to tell you. If this were in person, I would be stuck for words... I'd feel really bad for you, but I wouldn't be able to say anything. But here, I can tell you my thoughts as I think them in my brain, and make sure I'm saying what I want to say before you recieve it. So a lot of the nervousness and shyness is stripped away, and you know what I'm thinking, rather than just what I am able to say.
(Whoa... I passed the max. character limit for comments. XD;; Wow... 4300 is the max. So, I'll split in into two comments.)
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winterfish
Part 1
Date: 2004-09-29 10:05 pm (UTC)What are you to me? When I think of you, it makes me happy, because you are such a kind person. You always try to help people out even if it might be inconvenient for you. You have a really good heart (I don't care if that sounds cliche), and stupidly enough, I have learned that having that quality will often lead to people being mean to you. I hate that, but I guess it's just the way it is at this age. The mean people like that feel better about themselves if they have some way to feel power over another, so they end up taking advantage of the nice and quiet ones, because they (the nice ones) don't have the meanness in them to stand up to being made fun of. I would say you should try to ignore them... but I know how it is. Everyone says to do that, but it's not that easy. So... if you can do that, try your best. But more importantly, keep in mind that there really are people that care about your existance. I do. I know it might be hard to believe sometimes, especially when there are so many people attacking your feelings in large groups, but try to see through it. I know it hurts, but... they are only doing it for stupid reasons to improve their own feelings about themselves. It's not really anything they truly hate about you. Also... if you're quiet, they obviously don't know you very well, right? Then they have no basis to form their twisted opinions on. That's another good reason to not believe whatever they might say against you. ^^
(Oops, I haven't been making paragraphs x.x) And... about the online/offline different personality thing. I know how that is, too. But... the truth is, even though you act differently, you're still you. Your beliefs and feelings don't change. Sure, you may be more outgoing or energetic online, but... what I have realized over my time here is that online personalities are even closer to the 'real' you than you might think. You probably act shy IRL because of various reasons... you might be too nervous to talk to people, or you don't know what to say, or you're afraid of what they'll think of you, or other reasons. Mostly subconscious. But online, your words more closely match your thoughts. For example, right now... I'm taking the time to think out what I'm saying nd write it here, to tell you. If this were in person, I would be stuck for words... I'd feel really bad for you, but I wouldn't be able to say anything. But here, I can tell you my thoughts as I think them in my brain, and make sure I'm saying what I want to say before you recieve it. So a lot of the nervousness and shyness is stripped away, and you know what I'm thinking, rather than just what I am able to say.
(Whoa... I passed the max. character limit for comments. XD;; Wow... 4300 is the max. So, I'll split in into two comments.)